Thursday, July 30, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Triad Relationships


Would you ever consider being in a triad relationship? Can one ever be in such a relationship without the issues of jealousy causing problems? In this episode M3 Contributors Mark O Estes Jose Oquendo Mojica, Gerald Hogan, Jeffrey Roman and Breeze Vincinz join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the challenges and joys of a triad relationship. What does polyamory have to teach us about more conventional pairings?

Also Read: How I Figured Out the Rules of My Three-Way Relationship

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Being Apart and Together


How do you deal with a romantic partner who spends more time with his family and friends than with you? Do you feel that spending time apart from a partner can bring you closer together? In this episode M3 contributors Xavier Spann and Mark Estes join host Malcolm Travers is a discussion about the importance of sharing common interests while alone and together. How would you resolve the issue of not spending enough or too much time together? 

Thursday, July 23, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Love Hate


In this episode we discuss the power of the L word in a relationship and how haters gonna hate. Mark O Estess, Jose Oquendo MojicaGerald Hogan, Ja’Won Blackmonand Breeze Vincinz join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the level of vulnerability that we place ourselves in when express our feelings and opinions.

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: The Price of Promiscuity

 

How many people do you have to sleep with to be a slut? Is it fair to judge the sexual activities of people if everyone involved is a single consenting adult? In this episode M3 Contributors Jose Oquendo Mojica, Gerald Hogan, Breeze Vincinz, and Mark O Estes join host Malcolm Travers in discussing the cost of being sexually adventurous is a small community. Do you think we judge tops and bottoms differently when it comes to their promiscuity?

Thursday, July 16, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Bill Cosby is a Rapist


Talking about sexual assault can be uncomfortable, especially when when the accused is cultural icon. What's worse is when we blame the victims for wanting attention and money for could only be a humiliating re-victimization. In this episode M3 Contributors Clinton Joliffi, Breeze Vincinz, Mark Estes, Jose Oquendo and Jeffery Roman join host Malcolm Travers to discuss the recent release of documents that bolster the rape allegations against Bill Cosby. Why do you think people would still be skeptical of the claims after having admitted to sexual misconduct in the past?

See also M3 Bear Essentials: Is Bill Cosby a Rapist?

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Lingering Feelings


After the end of a relationship is it normal for the feeling to linger? How long should you wait before you date someone else? Could you be someone’s rebound guy? In this episode M3 contributors Breeze Vincinz, Trebor Senoj, and Mark O Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the grace period after a relationship has ended.

Thursday, July 9, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Finding Forgiveness


What does it mean to forgive someone who has wronged you? Do you need to forgive someone in order to move on? Why do we push for forgiveness before the person is ready? In this episode M3 contributors Jose Oquendo Mojica, Breeze Vincinz, and Mark O Estes join host Malcolm Travers is a discussion about what forgiveness means and its often unexamined limitations.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: The Halo Effect


What advantages do we give to highly attractive people? How do those advantages adversely affect their personality? Is it fair to blame them for the consequences of our bias? In this episode M3 contributors Breeze Vincinz, Mark O Estes, Ja’Won Blackmon,and Xavier Spann join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the halo Effect how our natural bias toward attractiveness sometimes has unexpected consequences. 

Watch The Halo Effect: Definition, Advantages & Disadvantages

Thursday, July 2, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Life’s Big Decisions and the Smell of Regret


What are some of the big decision that shaped your life? Do you have any regrets about the the choices you made knowing what you know now? In this episode M3 contributors Jose Oquendo Mojica, Mark O. Estes, Xavier Spann and Breeze Vincinz join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the big choices we made in our lives and why the curse of knowledge can lead to unnecessary regrets. Then we have a fun discussion about difference between real and knock off fragrances.

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

A Letter to a Gay Community of Color


They say perspective is everything and that experience breeds wisdom. For me those two things along with a few other factors have inspired me to compose this short article that will hopefully inspire and also spark some intellectual debate. I’m disappointed, ashamed, and somewhat disgusted at some of the things and people I have come into contact with that dwell inside of the gay black community. All of these things have baffled me leaving me with questions and concerns about a community that I obviously consider myself to be a part of.