Tuesday, June 30, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Fat Shaming in the Gay Community


Do gay men of size face additional challenges seeking the attention of other gay men? Do we too easily segregate ourselves into smaller subgroups based on the bad behavior of a few? M3 Contributors  Jose Oquendo Mojica and Mark O. Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the inequalities of larger men in the gay community.

Also Read: It Gets Better, Unless You’re Fat

Thursday, June 25, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Fear of Commitment

What does it mean to be afraid of commitment? Is it simply wanting a relationship without having any of the drawbacks? Do prenuptial agreements mean you don't think the relationship will last? M3 Contributors Ali Lopez, Breeze Vincinz and Mark Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the costs of maintaining a relationship. Many people romanticize what relationships are, so when the work of maintaining one get hard it can feel like it’s not worth the effort. What aspects of relationship maintenance do you feel are most overlooked?

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Keep Your Distance


Are you playing games if you allow someone to chase after you? How go you get over someone you've fallen hard for who’s just not that into you? In the latest episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Mark O Estes and Gerald Hogan join host Malcolm Travers about how to get over someone and keeping your distance as a strategy for enticing someone you like to chase after you. What are your strategies for getting over someone. Does playing hard to get work?

Thursday, June 18, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Body Types and Relationships


Would you determine a relationship partner’s compatibility based on their body type? How would you feel if your partner’s body type changed over the course of your relationship? In the latest Episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Ja’Won Blackmon, Gerald Hogan, Mark O. Estes and Breeze Vincinz join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about how we chose based on body type and we deal with change over time. Would you feel a certain way if someone dumped you because you gained or lost weight?

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: What Was She Thinking?



What lessons can Rachel Dolezal impersonating a black woman teach us about race? Even if it doesn't apply in this case, could someone be trans-ethnic in the same way someone is transgendered? In the latest episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Breeze Vincenz, Mark O Estes, Jose Oquendo and Xavier Spann join host Malcolm Travers in a serious discussion about the implications of changing one's race as well as exploring some psychological conditions that could explain her actions. Do her actions offend you?

Thursday, June 11, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Relationship Status Responsibility


How much responsibility should one take for being single? If you’re looking for a relationship and are unsuccessful, do you think there is some culpability for your situation or is all due to bad luck? In this episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Ali Lopez, Breeze Vincinz, Gerald Hogan and Mark Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about a comment left of a previous video about being desperate for love. Do we unfairly judge those who have been unlucky in their desire to be in a long term fulfilling relationship when the problem is outside of their control?

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Tuesday, June 9, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: Police Brutality and the Availability Heuristic


How does the media you consume affect your perception of police shootings of unarmed black men? Do you feel publicizing acts of generosity and kindness by the police helps improve the the relationships between the police and the communities they serve, or are they a distraction from solving the underlying issues? In this episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Jose Oquendo and Mark Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about limits of public relations and how some people's negative opinions can never be mollified. What are some policies that police departments can institute reduce the instances of police misconduct?

Also Read: Police don’t need to hug black people. They just need to stop killing them. - The Washington Post

Thursday, June 4, 2015

M3 Bear Essesntials: Total Top Temper Tantrum


Is it fair to ask a total top to give up the goods once in a while? Would a total top lose some of his attractiveness if you found out he bottomed at some point in his life? In this episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Gerald Hogan and Mark Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about the comments made on a post in the M3 Undercover group. What started off as a thread about getting your total top to flip, soon became a debate about a bias toward certain sexual roles and HIV transmission. Do you think there a negative connotations to the term versatile?

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

M3 Bear Essentials: The New Monogomists

 

Are couples who decide to be monogamous fighting against a trend in the gay community to be open sexually? Does the argument that monogamy isn’t natural necessarily mean that it can’t work? In the latest episode of the M3 Bear Essentials contributors Ali Lopez, Breeze Vincinz and Mark Estes join host Malcolm Travers in a discussion about monogamy in LGBT relationships. Do people tend to get judgmental about other people’s differing choices when it comes to monogamy?

Also Read: The New Monogamists