We all want love. We can pretend it doesn’t matter but we’d all be lying to ourselves. Waking up and falling in love with someone more and more everyday can be a beautiful thing. Something everyone deserves to experience in their lifetime. But is there a cost? Yes, people fall in love in mysterious ways but are our minds prematurely writing checks our hearts won’t be able to cash later? They say nothing in life is free so why would love be an exception? These things considered, how far should you go to find and experience love? How much of yourself should you be willing to sacrifice to discover your better half? Is there such a thing as giving up too much for companionship? These are all questions that, in my opinion, have no right or wrong answer. However when considering them, there are a few things you do need to keep in mind that will ultimately allow you to determine just how much is too much.
Thinking Out Loud” fantasy of being in “love”. Your true soulmate shouldn’t make you insane and also shouldn’t have you constantly questioning your judgment when it comes to if they are the one or not. The one thing that’s worse than losing your sense of judgment because of being in love is being involved with someone who takes advantage of you because of the mindset your “feelings” currently have you in. These individuals in these situations are like kids in a candy store and will masquerade their affection as “love” only because they know your mind is in a weakened state because of how they know you feel about them. They make it their mission to warp your mind so that they can in a way, always keep some type of control over your emotions and the decisions you make because of them. This will allow them to maintain control over you even in the event that your feelings for them one day begin to fade and you begin to regain your sense of judgment of who they truly are as an individual. It’s sad and very much so counter-productive when people are done wrong and get their feelings hurt all just to return to the same person that hurt them in the first place. By returning you’re only telling yourself and that person that you can’t do any better, and that you’ll accept them possibly doing the same thing to you again in the future. You are in the end sacrificing your worth just to continue dealing with someone who probably doesn’t even truly love you. Nobody can truly love you if you don’t already love yourself.
All in all sacrifices are a part of life. There the things we give up because nobody was created to have it all. When it comes to what you give up to find that special someone I believe a balance is the solution to maintaining an even scale between how much of yourself you keep and how much of yourself you give up for ultimately someone else. You should get to know someone extensively before you determine if that individual’s companionship is worth whatever sacrifice being with them requires. Making sacrifices for love is a risky business that sometimes won’t yield any reward but you can be sure to always walk away with some sort of experience or insight on a person and or situation. This insight will be a tool you can utilize in the future to guarantee that you never sacrifice the same part of yourself for an unworthy suitor ever again.
M3 Guest Correspondent