Episode 3: Bears and Masculinity w/ Mark Estes, David Vollin and Breeze VincinzFebruary 10, 2015
Why are faggots so afraid of faggots? It was the title of an anthology edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore and is the question I posed to the panel of M3 contributors. Masculinity is one of the issues that touches every gay man at some point in his life. Either his masculinity is called into question or he is pressured to not associate with feminine men. On the dating site that many gay men visit, many ads are openly hostile toward fem men and still others are fetishized to ease their own sense of self-hatred. In the third episode of the M3 Bearcast, I speak with Mark about his history of being in the closet, and why he avoided feminine men for fear he might be outed. I then speak with David Vollin about the way gay men are stereotyped in the mainstream media, and then I speak with Breeze Vencinz about his experiences with effemiphobia.
I posed the hypothesis that most closeted gay men have a similar past of discrimination toward feminine men and that some of them might not want to let go of the stance. Not everyone will accept fem guys even after they come out for the sake of arbitrary consistency. No one likes to be wrong, even in retrospect. There is also expectation in the black community about black manhood and that men of a certain size should behave in a certain way. Make sure to leave us a comment and let us know what you think.
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