Thursday, November 27, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: The Beauty Illuminati



Can you be friends with an ex that you are still attracted to and how much does physical attraction play into your friendships and relationships? M3 Contributors Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss the different ways physical attraction can sometimes blurry our judgments and how Breeze refuses to be part of the group of the people who puts style over substance that he affectionately calls the "Beauty Illuminati".

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

African American Horror Story


I took a certain offense when New York film critic Armond White labelled Steve McQueen’s film adaptation of Solomon Northup’s “12 Years A Slave” as torture porn [1]. My assumption was that the film, which received such high praise from the majority of other critics, starred one of my favorite actors Chiwetwl Ejiofor and put forth an effort to discuss a part of American history that is usually overlooked, maligned and misunderstood, was predestined to receive the highest of accolades and respect, particularly from African American audiences. This was, however, before I actually saw the film and found myself uncomfortably bored at yet another impotent effort to shed light on a sensitive subject by combining highly provocative images in hopes that their high incendiary level alone would substitute for plot, character or discussion. By the time the end credits rolled, my arms were as tightly crossed as they were when the opening credits appeared, and as I observed other movie goers in the audience wiping tears from their eyes from what they found to be a moving dissertation on American Chattel Slavery, I just replayed the images of anonymous black skinned caricatures in different states of extreme dismay that I had the displeasure of experiencing for over two hours and whispered to myself, “When will my life as a Black Man be seen as an intentional spiritual presence and not simply as a metaphor, a joke or a threat?”
 

Monday, November 24, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Is Bill Cosby a Rapist?



Conversations regarding sexual abuse can be incendiary endeavors. And when those conversations involve beloved people in the public eye, the conversation can become even more combustible. M3 Contributors, Gerald Hogan, Ja'Won Blackmon, Clinton Joliffi, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz conciliatorily discuss the recent accusations of sexual misconduct by renowned television actor Bill Cosby, the motivations of survivors of sexual abuse and the pathways for all involved to recover.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: D*ck On Demand


We recently asked via our #M3HotTopic, "Have you ever been with a partner who has wanted sex to often? What advice would you give to someone who feels pressured to put out more often?"  Considering the wide spectrum of answers that we received from our followers, it's clear there is no blanket response that answers the questions for everyone. M3 Contributors Gerald Hogan, Ja'Won Blackmon, Malcolm Travers, Breeze Vincinz and special guest Clinton Jolliffi discuss when our own male hyper-sexuality comes back to haunt us at the most inconvenient times.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: I'm Not Gay No More - Part 2


In part two of our discussion about the "I'm Not Gay No More" video that has gone viral, Male Media Mind Contributors Gerald Hogan, Ja’won Balckmon, Malcolm Travers, Breeze Vincinz and special guest Clinton Jolliffi discuss the trials and tribulations of coming out when you are so tightly tethered to your religious upbringing.

References:
M3 Bear Essentials: I'm Not Gay No More - Part 1

Monday, November 17, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: I'm Not Gay No More - Part 1



Cartoon by Satish Acharya

Before coming out of the closet, how strong was your antipathy against all things feminine and/or homosexual and how did your religious upbringing contribute to those aversions? Male Media Mind Contributors Gerald Hogan, Ja’won Balckmon, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss the YouTube video filmed at the 2014 COGIC (Church of God In Christ) Holy Convocation in St. Louis, Missouri that has gone viral where 21 year old Andrew Caldwell proclaimed “I’m not gat no mare, I am delivered!” and their own self repulsions during their journey of self-acceptance.

References:
I'm Not Gay No More! Praise Break at COGIC 107th Holy Convocation 
I'm Not Gay No More (Remix)
I'm Not Gay No More (Cartoon)

Thursday, November 13, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Ex Factor - Living Together When It's Over


#M3HotTopic was developed to procure big answers from small questions with pictures of hot guys. One particular #M3HotTopic proposed, "Have you ever had to live with an ex after a breakup? How did you both get through it?" M3 Contributors Ja'Won Blackmon, Malcolm Travers, Vaughne Smith and Breeze Vincinz fields  answers given by our audience while pondering the decisions they have made in the past when confronted with this situation.

Related:

14,06-12 M3 Bear Essentials: Talking About Your Ex
14,05-08 M3 Bear Essentials: Exes as Roommates


Wednesday, November 12, 2014

The Argument for Being Out


Coming out is both a political and personal issue facing our community. It’s political because the more people who are out about their sexuality, the harder it is to stereotype and discriminate against gay people. It’s a personal issue because each has to live the consequences of their sexuality being known by the people around them. I know that being out has been one of the best experiences for me. There was a time when I was very uncomfortable telling people that I was gay. I was lucky that I was never conflicted about my sexuality because it would have complicated matters even more. I knew I was gay from a very young age, and while I didn’t have a name for it until my teenage years, I didn’t have to question it like so many people do. Some of us even go as far as believing that they had some sort of choice in the matter. I suppose that’s their experience and they have a right to it, but all the evidence from the experiences recorded in sociological research and medical documentation suggests that sexuality is assigned at birth, or a very early age, and is not chosen. And while sexuality is a huge part of who we are, it’s not the only part that matters. I feel like a lot of people choose to stay in the closet because they don’t want that aspect of themselves overshadowing their other qualities. I understand that inclination, but I want to propose a positive argument for why it’s important to take that risk because the benefits far outweigh the possible negative consequences.

Monday, November 10, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Does Social Media Cause Problems in Relationships?



#M3HotTopic was developed to procure big answers from small questions with hot guys. One particular #M3HotTopic proposed, "Does social media cause problems in relationships and if so, explain a scenario as an example?" While the question provided a myriad of answers from our audience, social media does seem to have a succinct place in the romantic lives of modern day singles. M3 Contributors Ja'Won Blackmon, Malcolm Travers, Vaughne Smith and Breeze Vincinz discuss the highways and byways of new millennium dating and how social media platforms can sometimes provide detours to matrimonial bliss or emotional devastation.

Related:
14,10-01 Private Goes Public: Social Media Overexposure
14,06-26 M3 Bear Essentials: The Divided States of American Social Media
14,06-09 M3 Bear Essentials: Navigating Social Media 

Thursday, November 6, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Don't Be That Kind Of Gay


Queerty recently posted the article Don’t Be That Gay: The 10 Most Obnoxious Types Of Homosexual that gives a humorously truthful look at some of the stereotypes gay men often find ourselves emulating. M3 Contributors Ja'Won Blackmon, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz along with special guest Clinton Jolliffi talk about their experiences with embodying, combating and interacting with different types of homosexual archetypes.

Article: Don’t Be That Gay: The 10 Most Obnoxious Types Of Homosexual


Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Assimilation: Understanding The Need To Belong


Breeze posted a video of a dark-skinned man who had is eyes permanently changed to a bright ice blue. He had an eye lightening surgery. The video sparked quite a controversy on his Facebook timeline. The thread quickly turned into a discussion about black people trying to look more like white people and the heavy cost of assimilation. Note that the surgery isn’t approved within the United States, and the subject in the video had to fly to India to have the procedure done. Also note that he’ll probably have to have several followup procedures during his lifetime all of which place him at risk of damaging or completely destroying his eyesight. As someone who would kill to have perfect vision I had to ask, what motivation would be so strong as to make someone want to take that sort of risk?

Monday, November 3, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Nerd Defined


Wikipedia describes Nerd as a descriptive term often used pejoratively that indicates that a person is overly intellectual, obsessive, or socially impaired. And while many nerds have classically been on the outskirts of mainstream society, certain aspects of modern "nerd culture" have adopted some of the prejudicial tropes that it once was diametrically opposed to. M3 Contributors Ja'Won Blackmon, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz along with special guest Clifton Jolliffi discuss their impressions of nerd, nerd culture and it's burgeoning presence in mainstream society.