Thursday, December 25, 2014

Have A Happy Holiday Season!

The Bears of The Male Media Mind want to wish
you and yours a very HAPPY holiday season!

Monday, December 22, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Can You Be Too Masculine?

During a recent #M3HotTopic we asked, "In your opinion, is being too masculine a problem for total bottoms looking for a date?" Male Media Mind Contributors Malcolm Travers, JaWon Blackmon, Gerald Hogan, Clinton Jolliffi and Breeze Vincinz discuss the different ways gender politics effects the way gay men relate to one another.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Appetite for Variety

In a long term relationship (10+ years) do you think it's fair for one or both partners to be curious about what it would be like to have additional sexual partners and should their be boundaries in other for that curiosity to not manifest itself? Male Media Mind Contributors Malcolm TraversJaWon Blackmon, Gerald Hogan, Clinton Jolliffi and Breeze Vincinz discuss the different levels of importance in which couples weigh monogamy.

Monday, December 15, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: NSA Friendships

An article published in the Huffington Post makes the the delineation that No Strings Attached (NSA) relationships can bleed over to the way that we manage other relationships in our lives such as creating friendships with no sense of depth or loyalty. Male Media Mind Contributors Malcolm Travers, JaWon Blackmon, Gerald Hogan, Clinton Jolliffi and Breeze Vincinz discuss perils of maintaining long term friendships and gay mens' sometimes predilection for creating hollow friendships for the sake of appearance.

Article: No-Strings Attached Friendship?

Thursday, December 11, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Lovers Between Friends

We recently asked the question via #M3HotTopic, “Have you ever been upset with a friend for dating your ex? Is it fair to ask for your exes to be off limits?” M3 Contributors, Gerald Hogan, Ja'Won Blackmon, Clinton Joliffi, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss should there be a grace period for your friends to date your exes or are they forever off limits.

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Wait, Did You Just Read Yourself?

It's amazing just how attuned we as gay men can be to the slightest insults from one another, and yet, we have no awareness of the hurtful things we say to ourselves. Having posted plenty of innocent remarks online that are mistakenly interpreted as shade, I often find that these same individuals are in fact magnets for insults because they are saying horrible things about themselves in their internal monologue. As a writer and discussion leader I'm always looking for ways to empower and encourage complete strangers in the same way I would speak to a friend, but when it comes time to publish those videos and articles, I'm always my worse critic. Each time I publish I imagine it to be the post where everyone realizes just how crazy or stupid I really am. It came to the point where I had to distrust my own opinion and leave it up to others to provide me positive feedback.  I have come a long way since then, and I’ve found some interesting strategies in fighting my negative self-talk over the last two years. I want to share with you a few of the things I’ve learned.

Monday, December 8, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Posting Pictures Online

If you post your picture on the internet, are you in essence giving your consent for it to be re-posted? And when does personal responsibility come in to play if those re-posted pictures have detrimental effects to your personal and/or professional life? M3 Contributors Ja'Won Balckmon, Malcolm Travers, Breeze Vincinz along with special guest Ali Lopez weigh in on the etiquette, social protocol and consequences of posting personal information online.

Related: When Private Goes Public 

Thursday, December 4, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Can You Be Friends With Your Ex?

We recently asked the question via #M3HotTopic, “Can you be friends with an ex you still have feelings for? Could you watch him flirt with someone else and not get jealous?” M3 Contributors, Gerald Hogan, Ja'Won Blackmon, Clinton Joliffi, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss the feelings that linger when a relationship is supposedly over.

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The Ex Games: Growing, Living, and Forgiving

This article started with several #M3HotTopics dealing with exes and talking about it in our weekly hangout. It was interesting to hear how different people answered the questions, and it got me to think about how we approach our past relationships and the people we once called lovers. Some of us can’t be friends with an ex while others wouldn’t give it a second thought. Some wouldn’t let a friend date an ex while others would wish them well. No one seems to have a consensus on how to feel about our past relationships. What all these different answers led me to realize is that we each must navigate the complicated emotional landscape of our former relationships in our own way. While I can't make that journey less difficult, I hope that this article can shed some light on the possible peaks and pitfalls of such tricky terrain.

Monday, December 1, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: World AIDS Day

How has HIV/AIDS effected your dating life and/or sexual practices? Although new, innovative treatments are available to manage HIV infection, the best defense is to not acquire the virus at all.  As of 2014, over one million US citizens are living with HIV with one in six unaware of their infection. We here at Male Media Mind are dedicated to unifying the Black Bear community through Dialogue, Insight, Creativity and Knowledge and as we commiserate the 27th Annual World AIDS Day, M3 Contributors Trebor Senoj, Vaughne Smith, Ja'Won Blackmon, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss their relationship with HIV/AIDS and how it has impacted their lives and we encourage everyone to have conversations about HIV/AIDS among your circles, acknowledge our brothers, sisters, father, mothers, sons, daughters, friends and lovers whom we have lost to the disease, support those still in the struggle AND TO GET TESTED REGULARLY.