Monday, August 25, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: A Conversation About Emotional Abuse

Men, particularly men of color and men of a certain size, shy away from discussions of emotional abuse despite the fact that anyone regardless of size, color or age is susceptible to heart break, disappointment and emotional manipulation. M3 Contributors, Ja'Won Blackmon, Trebor Senoj, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss the their personal experiences with emotional abuse and symptoms of emotionally abusive relationships.

(Article:  Signs of Emotional Abuse)

Thursday, August 21, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Depression, Sadness and Social Etiquette

Our newly formed extension of MaleMediaMind M3Life is dedicated to helping the Black Bear community get healthier physically, mentally and emotionally. With the recent untimely suicide of beloved father, actor and comedian Robin Williams, the media has been inundated with articles relating to depression, suicide and mental illness including an insightful article by Margarita Tartalovsky, M.S. that details the nine things to not say to someone with mental illness. M3 Contributors Cecil Davison, Trebor Senoj, Malcolm Travers, Ja'Won Blackmon and Breeze Vincinz discuss the differences between depression, sadness and tactful ways to provide assistance when someone approaches you in need. 

Monday, August 18, 2014

Introducing Ja'Won Blackmon: New Contributor to M3

1. What is your full name? Do you have a nickname no one calls you anymore?
Ja’Won Tavarus Blackmon. No I have way too many nicknames among several groups of people I know.

2. If given the choice of any person alive or dead with whom would you want over to dinner as a guest? Why?
Michael Jai White, simply because this man is a very successful actor and multi-skilled martial artist there hasn’t been a movie he’s appeared in that I haven’t liked and he knows just how to give a performance whether its action packed or drama filled. 

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Love As A Second Language

It has been an exhausting sixteen years since I made the move from the “Windy City” to “The Land of Angeles” and one of the many cultural shifts I remember experiencing, outside of early closing nightclubs/bars, the lack of cohesive seasons and a questionable public transportation system, is the wide amount of ethnic ingredients that make up the our collective melting pot of races. Not that Chicago is even remotely ethnically monolithic but even Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. commented on the astoundingly stringent level of segregation that exists in the city[1] and my own experiences echoed the sentiment whereas opportunities to experience true multiculturalism where either mocked or frowned upon.  Now Los Angeles is not immune to issues dealing with inequality and racism but with Los Angeles County containing 4.9 million Hispanics, or 9% of the nation’s Hispanic populations[2] , discussions of bigotry become more multi-textural and not so Black and White. The same is true when discussing interracial dating whereas the seas of beautiful people expand far beyond the “Two-Tiered” system of Black and White racial compatibility. 

Monday, August 11, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: M3 Hot Topics

M3 contributor Malcolm Travers posts daily “Hot Topic” questions on our social media platforms that pose humorous yet insightful questions specific to the LGBT community alongside pictures of some of the finest men that dare to wear baby oil as clothing. Malcolm along with contributors Ja’WonBlackmon and Breeze Vincinz discuss some of our more popular Hot Topics: gay men and hygiene, favorite workout regimens, how important is it that your man knows how to cook and playing hard to get. 

Thursday, August 7, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Gay Black Men and Money

It is not uncommon for people of all walks of life to mismanage their finances. However, LGBT communities of color tend to have unique perspectives when it comes to money management, particularly when straddling financially humble beginnings and trying to keep up with the “Fabulous” Joneses. Fielding a question in regards to Black Gay men and money, M3 contributors Cecil Davison, Malcolm Travers, Ja’Won Blackmon and Breeze Vincinz muse over the destructive patterns some Black Gay men use physical possessions to determine their worth.

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Musings of a Philosophical Bear: On Loving Reality

I'm a dreamer by nature. I can easily get caught up in my thoughts, thinking about all the things I'm going to do someday, never really getting anything done. I sometimes have full conversations with myself, anticipating a real confrontation, avoiding the real conversation that needed to happen. I've even found myself angry at people for things they've said to me in my head. Mind you, I only imagined the things they said to me, but the mind can be so powerful that our false emotions seem real. I can have some very firm ideas about what someone else should be, what they should say, how they should treat me, and I get disappointed with them when they fail to meet my expectations. My powerful imagination comes in handy as a writer, but in the real world I punish myself by getting into thought loops, gaming out my life and forgetting to live it. I was embarrassed by this for years but then I came to realize that it's something we all do in our own way. We all live our lives in our head. It's not something we can completely escape from but if we come to identify those times when we let our thoughts take over our lives we may be able to get more of the things we want out of life instead of just dreaming about them. 

Monday, August 4, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: The Black Gay Database

While some people end relationships on a cordial note with both parties being able to move forward positively from the experience, other breakups can be downright traumatic, frustrating and horrific. In response to an audience member asking if there are social media platforms developed specifically to showcase the wrongdoings of ex-lovers, M3 Contributor Malcolm Travers along with new contributor Ja’Won Blackmon discuss the pros and cons of managing such a site while Breeze Vincinz harkens back to a concept that he has written about in a prior article that he refers to as “The Black Gay Database.” (