Monday, June 30, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: A Black Bear Life In A White Bear World

When M3 Contributor Cecil Davison posed a question to popular Bear Blogger Noodles and Beef about racism within the Bear community, his answers while, statistically correct, were curiously devoid of personal experiences or solutions. Cecil along with fellow M3 contributors Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz discuss the overwhelming lack of diversity in Bear events and advertisements and the need for more self-sustaining pride within communities of color.

Cecil’s post to Noodles and Beef as well as the response can be found HERE.

Breeze’s article “The Ballad of the American Black Bear” which also discusses this issue can be found HERE.

Friday, June 27, 2014

Brutal Lynx: The Debut

Once upon a time, in a land far, far ago, a little cherub was born with the bark of a lynx and the bite of a bear. That cherub has since grown up to be a Brutal Lynx and as we celebrate the birth of our beloved loud mouth today, we take a look back at his very first YouTube video on his channel as he insults Black people and White people, Jews and Gentiles, Men and Women, Americans and Ameri-can'ts. Come with us will you, as we witness the beginnings of... a BRUTAL LYNX... (and make sure to subscribe to his channel)

Thursday, June 26, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: The Divided States of American Social Media

Humans are naturally programmed to be social. And if social media is designed to bring us together, why does it seem that as a society we are disconnected more than ever. M3 Contributors Cecil Davison, Gerald Hogan, Trebor Senoj, Malcolm Travers, Breeze Vicninz and special guest Ali Lopez discuss the successes and failures they gave experienced while trying to cultivate relationships online. (Article from the “The Mind Unleashed”: Here's What Facebook Is Doing to Your Brain. It's Kind of Shocking

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

The Grudge

In my ongoing quest to gain a better understanding of life on this little blue marble we call earth, I have been perusing a myriad of spiritual as well as self-help texts. One in particular that caught my fancy was authored by self-help author Karen Salmansohn who suggested differing methods to overcome bitterness caused by detractors by forgiving and forgetting their transgressions. It definitely perked my interest considering that I have been in an annoyingly constant state of trying to make lemonade out of the shit covered lemons left to me after an unceremonious divorce from the single longest relationship that I have ever sustained in my life… my job. I have never taken the sentiment of “forgiving and forgetting” lightly and I applaud those mature adults who are able to conjure up the wherewithal to transform their antagonists into simple protagonists with questionable agendas in their consciousness. I imagine that one day I will also achieve the sweet ambivalence towards past indiscretions that forgiveness affords.  But until that day comes what I can tell you is that right now I would like nothing more than to see all of those bitches burn in hell. For eternity. And when I take a good look at my life and the factions that have decidedly and intentionally put in efforts of Orwellian proportions to fuck with me, the list of faggots to be ignited gets greater. My goal is definitely forgiveness. Forgetting, on the other hand, seems to be a dish best served to the ignorant, the cowardly and the fool-hardy.

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Love Bear on How to Be a Good Man

I think relationships are important to our lives. As gay men we rarely get the support and advice we need to have successful partnerships. Sometimes when I read the advice given to us, it can come off as arrogant or judgmental. It reads as if we're doing something wrong if we can't keep a man. A lot of times we have been through a series of bad relationships and the whole idea of being coupled can feel uninviting. I understand this inclination and I don't want to tell you what to do. I don't prescribe what is best for anyone. I would, however, like to share my experiences in the hopes that lessons I learned can help someone avoid my mistakes.

Monday, June 23, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Florida - Sunshine State or Rogue State

From the Elián González affair to the Presidential Election Recount of 2000 to the murder of Trayvon Martin, the state of Florida has seen its fair share of racist and bigoted accusations thrown its way. And recent reports of its “Stop and Frisk” policy has does nothing to help convince onlookers that the once Sunshine State is not devolving into a Rogue State. M3 contributors Cecil Davison, Gerald Hogan, Trebor Senoj, Malcolm Travers and special Guest Ali Lopez weigh in on the Florida’s reputation and discuss whether the accusations are urban myth or urban reality. 

Friday, June 20, 2014

A Change in Perspective: A Maya Angelou Retrospective

Maya Angelou was possibly the most creative person I've encountered in media. In her 86 years of life, she was an actress, a singer, a dancer, a journalist, a film director, an essayist, and a Pulitzer Prize–nominated poet. But Angelou’s crowning achievement was her 1969 memoir I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, which turned a childhood of oppression and abuse in the segregated South into a beautiful ode to the power of human endurance. Soon after her death I began to see her words being misused by people who didn't know who she was or the context in which those quotes were taken. Initially, I didn't feel  my commentary was necessary because she wasn't just my hero, she touched the lives of millions, even in some unintentional ways. I do, however, still hold a certain level of resentment in regards to the misappropriation of her words. But instead of an extended rant about the ignorant fashioning of a brilliant person's life to meet the needs of some flaccid platform by factions who know little about her, I think it would be better to concentrate on her life, her work, and how the both have changed my perspective.

Thursday, June 19, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: The Sexual Development of Man

An article published by discussed Black male celebrities who had sexual experiences at a relatively young and how those experiences were viewed as rites of passage and if the gender roles were changed those experiences would have been viewed as molestation. M3 contributors Malcolm Travers, Cecil Davison, James Butler, Trebor Senoj and Breeze Vincinz muse on the sexual development of African American men and their personal experiences of coming to terms with their own sexual identity.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

The Myth of American Sanity

Originally published in The Monthly Breeze

Sometimes I truly wonder about the general mental welfare of us bipedal primates. Adam and Eve definitely come to mind. As a kid, I could never understand why God never wanted them to eat from the tree of knowledge. I never understood why he felt knowledge to be this condemnable transgression. I imagine that it was done out of basic parental concern, like when you just want your kids to stay little… eat, sleep, cry and blow spit bubbles. You just don't want them to ever know about rape, abortion, murder, autoerotic asphyxiation, vodka enemas, crack or the litany of other occupational hazards that exist in this job called life. You never want them to "know". I think it's a concept that has plagued mankind for centuries, this whole idea of free will. Can the idea of having 32 flavors to choose from make you go mad and is that why so many factions just want you to stick to vanilla and call it a day?

Monday, June 16, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Orange Is the New Black Season Two Recap (No Spoilers)

Male Media Mind is an organization for and about Black Gay Bears. Notwithstanding, we are absolutely obsessed with Netflix's lesbian-esque "Orange Is The Black". A week after the season premiere, M3 contributors James Butler, Cecil Davison, Trebor Senoj, Gerald Hogan, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz with guest Ali Lopez give their recap of the entire series without giving away any spoilers.

Sunday, June 15, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Happy Fathers' Day!

How has your father shaped your life and how do you plan to honor/remember him this Fathers' Day? M3 Contributors Gerald Hogan, Cecil Davison and Malcolm Travers muse on Fathers' Day traditions while Breeze Vincinz recalls the day he came out to his Father.

Friday, June 13, 2014

My Hollywood

Originally published in The Monthly Breeze

The other day I caught a glimpse of the movie Pretty Woman and I just couldn’t help but laugh my ass off. The insipid “hooker-with-a-heart-of-gold” scenario not withstanding, it was a delight to see Hollywood’s version of itself. Now Hollywood has gone through quite a few transformations over the years and I am ashamedly a novice when it comes to the actual history of Hollywood and its origins, but what I can tell you is that modern Hollywood is something of an enigma that has never really been accurately captured in any film, television show or book. Much like Woody Allen’s consistently sanitized versions of New York with its offensively blatant removal of ethnic minorities; Hollywood is usually depicted as some PG-13 Technicolor version of urban decay complete with whores that look like Julia Roberts who oddly enough are NOT on crack.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Talking About Your Ex

There is a long standing belief that we only have one true love of our lives. The reality for many has shown than that is not necessarily true as we reorganize as our priorities as we get older, try different relationships for size and pile up a number of past relationships in the wake. So when/why does it become a problem when we acknowledge those past relationships while building a new one? M3 Contributors Malcolm Travers, Cecil Davison, Gerald Hogan and Breeze Vincinz along with guests Ali Lopez and Clinton Jolliffi muse about how much baggage from old relationships should you bring when entering into a new one.

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

The Power of Context: Masculinity and Gun Violence

More than 20,000 people attended a memorial at the University of California, Santa Barbara, last week to pay tribute to the six students killed. The shooter, Elliot Rodger, was a 22-year-old son of a Hollywood director. The killings took place in the college town of Isla Vista where he laid out his plans for what he called a “Day of Retribution” in a YouTube video and a 141-page manifesto. He clearly knew he'd have an audience once he carried out his plans and made sure he put his narrative skills to use. He ranted about still being a virgin and promised to “slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up blonde slut I see.” It was disturbing to say the least, yet all too familiar. We say we don't want to popularize sadistic killers, almost always young men, but how can we resist something so disturbing? We condemn him, we blame the culture of violence, cry out for some gun regulation and an increase in screening and help for those with mental illness, but nothing ever gets done. Soon the victims and shooters are forgotten until a new tragedy emerges from the daily horrors of ordinary everyday gun violence and the cycle starts all over again. 

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Bear Television Review: Orange Is the New Black - Season Two

Despite the many advantages of premiering every episode of an entire season of a television show at one time (alcohol laced weekend binge watching notwithstanding), one major disadvantage is the increased threat of accidentally broadcasting and/or viewing spoilers.  Jenji Kohan’s “Orange Is the New Black” definitely falls into this trap where ardent fans of the first season began creating and reposting spoiler-esque memes of season two immediately after the episodes became available exclusively on Netflix. Because the construction of the show has character and plot twists built within in it that would make M. Night Shyamalan blush, there does seem to be a sense of obligation to not disclose those traps in hopes that others will feel the same sense of awe when they enter this Liz Friedman produced funhouse. An obligation that seems to weigh too heavy in some outlets, but one that we’re going to try and uphold here.

Monday, June 9, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: Navigating Social Meda

Often times people who use social media platforms irritatingly do not translate the social rules of decorum that exist in one on one conversations into their online experiences. The heightened level of anonymity encourages many users to gain “keyboard courage” when pursuing potential relationships as well as responding to those who are not receptive to such advances. M3 contributors James Butler, Malcolm Travers and Breeze Vincinz along with special guest Tony Banks discuss their experiences with navigating the highways and byways of social media and the bumps in the road they have encountered along the way.

Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Bear Movie Review: Maleficent (No Spoilers!)

As a longtime Disney fan I was thrilled to hear about the release of the motion picture Maleficent. Films within the fantasy genre usually follow the journey of the protagonist as they battle though hardships, childhood issues and major mental scars to become a symbol of pure light and good. And with the creation of strong heroes, their counterintuitive antagonists hiding in the shadows are even stronger. This is the core of what make Maleficent a perfect concept.

Monday, June 2, 2014

M3 Bear Essentials: What Is Sex?

As the Male Media Mind contributors field questions from our audience regarding whether oral sex is “real sex” and the value of sex-less relationships, Cecil, Gerald, Trebor, Malcolm and Breeze ponder the more intriguing question of, what exactly constitutes "sex"?