Monday, September 30, 2013

Are Masculine Men More Attracted to Other Masculine Men?

When a gay man fitting the “Classic” definition of masculinity seeks a mate what exactly is he looking for? Is he looking for a mate that fits the classical heterosexual definition of femininity, i.e. trying to emulate the established heterosexual model or is he looking to find a mate who is closer to himself; is he more inclined to be attracted to an incontrovertibly masculine man in defiance of that social paradigm?

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Weekly Live Hangout

Wake up little Suzie! Another M3 Hangout going on NOW! Come join us and ask questions to contributors!

Friday, September 27, 2013

How Bisexuality and DL Culture May Effect Human Evolution

There is a difference between being “DL” and “Bisexual”, actually there are many, many differences between these two types of men. All DL men are not bisexual and all bisexual men are not DL.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Fall TV Review: Marvel’s Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.

Written by: Daren W. Jackson on September 25, 2013.

I’ll be honest. I was all prepared to bash this series. Being the Marvel-ite that I am, I just knew this show would be a colossal debacle, further alienating true comic book fans in an effort to gain widespread appeal. I just knew it. But then I watched the pilot. And I adjusted my thinking.

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Why Singles Hate On Relationships

We are built for connection. As much as we complain about relationships, I see that basic need expressed in every Facebook status update, every tweet, every discussion board flame war, and belly button. The truth is evident, but sometimes we want to be connected so badly that we end up worse than when we stared. In our desperate need for connection we'll sometimes put up with worst people. And sometimes in trying to be a good person we end up being the worst person.

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Kenoki the Alienated Entity

About two weeks ago I relived an episode of my life that seems to repeat itself no matter where I am or who I am with.  This type of thing seems to happen at gatherings.  I have always said hello and hi to people when I walk in a room or any place where there are is a large group of people.  I sometimes I might not even say it loud enough or nobody really pays me any attention at all.  Cause most likely I not well liked or nobody really cares to get to know me.  That's fine.  My own family don't want to get to know me and this has been proven.

Monday, September 23, 2013

Emmy Awards Snubs And Surprises 2013

The Emmy Awards held a bevy of surprises -- Jeff Daniels took home the top drama acting award! -- and a slew of snubs -- Jessica Lange! -- at the 2013 awards ceremony.
The 65th Primetime Emmys, hosted by Neil Patrick Harris, saw many first-time winners and a few old favorites take home the golden statue.
Below are some of the snubs and surprises from the 2013 Emmy Awards.

Saturday, September 21, 2013

It's Just Sex... Or Is It?

I was reading The Morality of Promiscuity: Is It Only About Sex? by co-blogger Vaughn Smith and it got me to thinking about my journey and growth of my personal views on relationships and sex.  I was just going to quickly comment, but I realized that I had more thoughts I wanted to share than would be appropriate for a comment box.

Friday, September 20, 2013

No Time to Despair About Gun Control Posted by Adam Gopnik

So here we go again, right back where we started, or seemingly so—one more gun massacre in America. This time at the Washington Navy Yard, a military establishment where the “schoolteachers” are trained members of the military, many of them armed.

Nothing seems to happen in the wake of massacre after massacre. No legislation, just a preening, self-congratulatory dance among the members of the gun lobby, which wholly owns the Republican Party and too many chunks of the Democratic one: Not even twelve more dead can shake our grip! Yet I don’t detect despair on the side of the sane, though despair might be helpful. “Though we cannot out-vote them we will out-argue them,” Dr. Johnson once said, and it is fortifying, if not comforting, to know that the argument only gets stronger with each new day and each new study. Another one was just published, in that left-wing rag The American Journal Of Public Health, called “The Relationship Between Gun Ownership and Firearm Homicide Rates in the United States, 1981-2010.” It shows the same things that every other scientific, refereed, and peer-reviewed study has shown:

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Porn Performer With HIV Says Costar Was Bleeding During Shoot

Warning: This article addresses graphic subject matter that may not be appropriate for all readers.

With news cameras flashing, adult film performer Cameron Bay told reporters that in her last porn shoot before testing positive for HIV, her partner's penis was bleeding -- and he wasn't wearing a condom. After stopping momentarily, the cameras continued rolling, she said.

Bay, whose positive HIV test sparked the first of two porn moratoriums in the last month, spoke Wednesday at a Hollywood press conference with other adult film performers, including two who said they also contracted HIV this year. The press conference was coordinated by the AIDS Healthcare Foundation, which advocates for mandatory condom use in porn.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Is the DL Lifestyle Obsolete?

By D. David Vollin

Black men who remain closeted are becoming obsolete commodities in a world that has long since left them behind!

The American Armed Forces, The federal and many state jurisdictions have fundamentally changed to accommodate homosexuals a cultural shift that is more than a sign that things will change! The world has changed right before their eyes but they remain blind sighted and therefore trapped in an obsolete time capsule by their own fears!

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Life v. Lifestyle

Originally posted in the Monthly Breeze

A lot of the conversations I have been having with friends lately have been revolving around the concept of being "Out" as homosexuals. Part of it, I imagine, is because I am becoming more and more aware of my own internalized homophobia and curiously enough, I'm not particularly trying to cure myself of it more so than I have been feeding it. I would even say that I am addicted to my own homophobia. I'll admit it… I hate being gay, the whole preoccupation of it. I've come terms to with the fact that I'm gay, I just hate having it be my "thing". I don't want a "thing" anymore, I don't want to have a point of contention. Ever since I came out to my brother it's like I lost my identity as "sibling" to him and have somehow turned into "big black gay thing" and it pisses me off and it definitely effects my eagerness to out myself to people with whom I share close quarters with who assume my heterosexuality.

Monday, September 16, 2013

The Morality of Promiscuity: Is It Only About Sex?

I had an interesting conversation with a friend recently. I was discussing my angst of my budding experiences with my explorations into the dating scene in Atlanta.  So far, it seems everyone I find to be ideal are already in relationships.  This hasn't stopped some of them from trying to holla at me anyway. I have to admit, a few times I had somewhat given in to their advances.  I mean, didn't a fairly recent President say that oral sex technically wasn't sex anyway? If the most powerful man in the world doesn't know then who does, right?

Friday, September 13, 2013

M3 HANGOUT: Misunderstandings and Orginal Sin w/ Beau, Breeze and Lynx

Male Media Mind Contributor Beau explains the context of a mix up we had in one the the threads for an older video about the Bible and talks about original sin as it gets confused in a comment thread.

Hygiene Tips From A Nerdy Black Bear Part 2

This black bear is back with another hygiene post to help men out there with there cleanliness and health needs. but in this post I will discuss something a little different than my first post on hygiene. I'm adding a list of products and items we can use to improve our lives. And I want to talk about sexual cleanliness and perpetration as well. In today's world more and more men are buying products to improve themselves I'm here to talk about what works and what doesn't. So today's post is about the douching and the right way to douche. A lot of people not just gay men don't know the proper way to douche well I am here to clear the mystery.

Thursday, September 12, 2013

Introducing David Vollin: New Contributor to M3

1. What is your full name? Do you have a nickname no one calls you anymore?
My full name is David Vollin

2. If given the choice of any person alive or dead with whom would you want over to dinner as a guest? Why?
An easy answer for me, that man would certainly be Frederick Douglass, as a Black man fighting the same struggle he did over 150 years ago he represents the personification of what all oppressed peoples wish to achieve in their lifetime; defying the rules, breaking the continuum of oppression, making the oppressor know that the day has come when the evil they have wrought upon innocents is over. Fighting with the very first and last breath of your being for freedom.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Black Bear Trailer Review Robo Cop

I'm nerding out right now, finally a movie remake I really wanted to see executed, I'm  done seeing marvel remakes of Batman, Superman, Spiderman etc... don't get me wrong i love my Marvel and DC Movies, but seeing them over and over again in constant rotation the movies loses there luster and excitement. So remaking a movie that's over 10 years old with today technology and graphic advancement would bring a new flavor to the Robocop movie.but to make this movie really successful we need a great director and Jose Padilha decided to take on the project. So i did some research on the director and found that Jose studied business studies, politics and economics in Rio de Janeiro, followed by English literature and international politics in Oxford. Movie wise he directed Bus 174, Brazil's Vanishing Cowboys, Elite Squad and Elite Squad: The Enemy Within

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

The Reality of Black Male Privilege

by Theodore R. Johnson The Grio 

The 50th anniversary of the March on Washington, during which thousands of African-Americans came together to address social inequalities, was a reminder of the beauty and power of a unified community. But this summer of blackness met its discontent when a horrible parody of heroine Harriet Tubman went viral and highlighted an intraracial sexism that’s gone largely unaddressed.

Monday, September 9, 2013

Male Media Mind Has Joined Pinterest

There's good news for all the M3 followers out there, the team has decided to join the Pinterest universe.We are constantly trying to find new ways to and grow our community to new social networks so we can reach more people who share our interests. Pintrest is the fastest growing social media site and we wanted to get on the ground floor. What can you expect from the Male Media Mind Pinterest Boards? Discussion topics about black and gay culture. We will share and collect articles about sex, social issues, movies, music and television shows, live entertainment, politics and of course lots of beautiful men. Expect to see pictures of bears, articles about sexy entertainers and much much more. What's great about any social media site is that it only gets better with more participation. So if you want to enjoy some of the most nerdy bear boards on Pinterest head over to: and follows us.

Sunday, September 8, 2013

The Philosophical Bear on Gay Purpose

Why are we here? It's one of the deepest and most basic questions we can ask. Why do we exist when nothing could exist? On a smaller scale, I have to ask why is anyone gay? If it were possible to create a vector virus that when released destroy the gay gene thereby eliminating homosexuality forever, what would be the positive argument for not doing such a thing? In other words, what is the purpose of being gay? I've been stuck on this question for a while because we're not a unified group of people. While there might be some patterns, any observations I make about gay people wouldn't apply to a large number of us. Still, it's a question I'd like to investigate.

Saturday, September 7, 2013

10 Types of Dudes We Have Dated

By Demetria L. Lucas

Earlier this week the Washington Post published a list of "The 10 D.C. Guys We've All Dated." It included "the chill Republican dude" who wears shirts with whales on them, "the organic kale guy" who makes homemade quiche and "the Clarendon guy" who downs shots of Fireball and never misses brunch.

Friday, September 6, 2013

Reflections on Breeze and the Growth of M3

There's been about six months since Breeze first came to M3. It came to him through the grapevine, or as he would call it the gay black database, that there was a gay black blog. He told me later that his first impression was why the hell hadn't he been asked to be a part of it? So through a friend he got in touch with me and I signed him up. He immediately went to work. He ended up taking over the graphic design of the blog. He changed the look of the blog, making it a lot easier to navigate and view on mobile devices. I was immediately impressed by the quality of his designs and writing. So it begged the question. Why was he righting for us? I mean it was clear from the get go that just having him on the blog raised out level of professionalism by at least fifty percent. He could have charged us a large amount of money for the work he did. So why didn't he?

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Introducing Cecil Davison: New Contributor to M3

1. What is your full name? Do you have a nickname no one calls you anymore?
Cecil Harris Davison II (No, I'm not named after an uncle. My dad wasn't the king of anything. Technically, it should be Jr. but nope). I grew up with "CC" as a nickname but the only person who calls me that nowadays is Vaughne...and he spells it

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

Samsung Galaxy Gear

Well ladies and gentleman, Samsung has done it again, the company has brought us a new way to improve our lives with the Samsung Galaxy Gear. It's a computerized android powered watch that can duplicate the same actions as a galaxy phone. When I heard about this I had to do my research on this product, and in doing so I noticed there was not a lot of information on this product. There where some specs that where leaked to keep the fans interested and asking for more. I will add the information specs to this post so you can get the full lowdown on the Samsung Galaxy Gear.

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Till Death Do Us Part

By Jamie Le Curtis in Huff Post

The gay soldier who openly challenged the government military policy of Don't Ask, Don't Tell died yesterday in a traffic accident. He was 36. His name was Darren Manzella. He was married in July. When I read that this morning I thought about courage. His courage to serve and challenge. His courage to live his life in truth, not shadows. His courage to stand up and make change. I thought about the courage of Kris Perry and Sandy Stier and Jeff Zarrillo and Paul Katami and Ted Olson and David Boies and Chad Griffin who joined together so that Darren could get married.

Monday, September 2, 2013


For the entirety of his Presidential career, Barack Obama has attempted to reconcile the competing strains of “We Shall Overcome” and “Hail to the Chief.” At the outset of his Presidency—in ways that he spoke about explicitly on Wednesday, in his speech before the Lincoln Memorial—there was a causal relationship between those ideals: his election was the ultimate validation of the audacity at the heart of the simple creed that drove the civil-rights movement. Yet Obama’s speech, marking the fiftieth anniversary of the March on Washington, also laid bare the contradictions in those two themes and raised a dispiriting question: Has a black Presidency moved us closer to the ideal of King’s dream, or reflected its exhaustion as a real possibility?

Sunday, September 1, 2013

Google Hangouts: Lynx, Trebor, James, and Gerald

Doing the the Google hangouts has really been a great learning experience. From the get go, we made sure we talked about the things that everyone talks about in private and we bring it out in the open. We always make sure to obey our curiosity and explore the issues we care about. We hope to get your input on future topics. Messages us leave comments, get your questions answered.