Friday, August 30, 2013

President Barack Obama Speaks at the Lincoln Memorial

from The Blaze

US President Barack Obama speaks during the Let Freedom Ring Commemoration and Call to Action to commemorate the 50th anniversary of the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom at the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, DC on August 28, 2013. The March on Washington is best remembered for King’s stirring vision of a United States free of inequality and prejudice, telecast live to a nation undergoing a phenomenal decade of soul-searching, crisis and change. Credit: AFP/Getty Images

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Living Single Turns Twenty: Eleven Life Lessons Learned

By Erin E. Evans

The four women of Living Single (Warner Bros. Entertainment)

(The Root) -- Before the ladies of Sex and the City pounded the New York City pavement in their stilettos and before our new-millennium Girlfriends were taking over Los Angeles, we tuned in to our girls Khadijah (Queen Latifah), Synclaire (Kim Coles), Max (Erika Alexander), Regine (Kim Fields) -- and the guys, Kyle (Terrence Carson) and Overton (John Henton) -- of Living Single in the mid-'90s.

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

A Mulatto, An Albino, A Mosquito, My Libido

originally posted in the Monthly Breeze

This is a piece a wrote awhile back and it should be noted that the friend that I mention in the piece has since passed away and I miss him terribly. Not a day goes by when I don't think about him. And I dedicate this to him because he definitely held my sorry ass hand through the various highways and byways on the underground railroad of my sexuality. He taught me how to correctly tie my headphones as to not destroy the copper inside. He taught me that any top can bottom if you eat their ass out. And he taught me that love is a currency and life too short to be Scrooge. So enjoy the fruits of your labor old friend, your wealth is most definitely appreciated down here...

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Kinky Kid


I recently discovered that my 14-year-old stepson, who lives with us full-time, has been stealing, wearing, soiling, and hiding his toddler sister's pull-ups. I've found them after he hides them in his closet. After discussions with him, I'm certain that wearing them is a pleasure thing for him. (He says "curiosity," but this has been going on so long that he knows what it feels like.) He has even stolen some of the neighbor girl's Baby Alive doll diapers to wear and soil. We've told him he has to stop stealing diapers—from our neighbor, because stealing is wrong, and from us, because these things are flippin' expensive. We are pretty grossed out by it, despite being pretty open-minded people. I may be more grossed out by the prospect of piles of dirty diapers hidden somewhere in the house, but the thought of purposely peeing your pants isn't pleasant, either. I believe we have a fetish growing here, and I don't think a parent needs to be involved in it, but he's stinking up the joint.

Parent Is Seriously Stumped

Monday, August 26, 2013

March on Washington: What Critics Will Say

By: The Root Staff 

(The Root) -- "I say segregation now, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever." That, of course, was Alabama Gov. George Wallace, who'd run on a platform opposing black voter registration, in a speech delivered in 1963 -- the very same year as the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom.

This month, events commemorating the landmark civil rights event of 50 years ago are planned across the country. There's National Action Network's National Action to Realize the Dream March (Aug. 24), a "Let Freedom Ring" ceremony where President Obama will deliver remarks from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial on Aug. 28 (the march's official anniversary) and countless smaller celebrations, demonstrations and conferences.

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Who's Coming to the March on Washington?

By Janell Ross | The

Kim Moore, 28, is a consultant who lives in the San Diego area. She said she's reached a phase in her life where she's ready to move beyond "talking and the marching." She wants to turn to direct and strategic action that will force some of the changes she feels are critical to the country's social and economic health.

At the top of Moore's list of concerns: the sky-high 13 percent black unemployment rate, policies such as Florida's "Stand your ground" and New York's stop and frisk and the litany of voting changes in states such as North Carolina that imperil the ability of people of color to shape the nation's laws.

Saturday, August 24, 2013

Who Designed the March on Washington?

By Henry Louis Gates Jr. | The

Bayard Rustin (left) speaking to administrative chairman Cleveland Robinson (right) (Wikimedia Commons)

If you had been a bus captain en route to the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom in August 1963, you would have known who its organizing genius was, and you wouldn't have been surprised to see his picture on the cover of Life magazine a week later. Yet of all the leaders of the civil rights movement, Bayard Rustin lived and worked in the deepest shadows, not because he was a closeted gay man, but because he wasn't trying to hide who he was. That, combined with his former ties to the Community Party, was considered to be a liability.

Friday, August 23, 2013

Bear Movie Reviw: The Butler


Lee Daniels' The Butler
Directed by: Lee Daniels
Starring: Forest Whitaker, Oprah Winfrey, Mariah Carey, David Banner, Vanessa Redgrave, Lenny Kravitz, Cuba Gooding, Jr., Terrence Howard, Adriane Lenox, David Oyelowo

My father once told me a tale of two separate families who survived the middle passage. They both arrived in the “The New World” and the paternal leaders of both families were immediately beaten, violated and humiliated in front of their respective families. One father, over taken by such intense public displays of degradation in the face of his own children, spat in the White face his oppressors and damned him to hell. As he lurched to rip the throat out of these purveyors of evil to prove to his family (and himself) that he would not accept such blatant injustices, he was shot in the head and died immediately.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Are Weight Comments a Nonwhite Thing?

By Jenée Desmond-Harris 

"I'm white, and I notice that people of ethnicities and nationalities different from mine can be very blunt with their comments about my body -- from when I spent time in Jamaica and people openly called me fat without any negative tone, just matter-of-fact, to the Vietnamese women where I get my nails done suggesting ways for me to lose weight. Even a woman from the Dominican Republic who I'm friendly with at work is very comfortable making comments about my rear end and my 'curviness' (we know what that means), etc. -- but again, this is not derisive in any way.

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Self-Defense and the Law: A Roundtable Interview

Sam Harris: First, I’d like to thank you for taking the time to speak with me, Steve. We are having this conversation just a few days after the verdict was read in the now infamous Zimmerman trial, which makes the topic of self-defense law of greater interest than it might usually be. I don’t want to go into the specifics of that case, but I think it is a useful frame for our discussion. It seems to me that what happened between Trayvon Martin and George Zimmerman could be viewed as an instance of self-defense gone awry.

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Forget Diverse Friends. Learn About Race

By Jenée Desmond-Harris

 HannibalHarris: In the wake of a recent Reuters/Ipsos poll, which found that 40 percent of white people and 25 percent of nonwhite people have no friends of the opposite race, it occurred to me that even "40 percent" could be a charitable reading of "friendship." Like, is it possible that white people could or would greatly overstate their relationship with someone of another race so as not to appear racist?

Monday, August 19, 2013

Mind Games TV Series

I'm back with a new upcoming TV series called Mind Games. after seeing the trailer it seem like a interesting and well rounded cast of actors and actresses I cant wait for the show to release next year so i can give you an full review on the show and the rest of the cast

Release Date: 2014

Clark (Steve Zahn) and Ross (Christian Slater) Edwards are brothers and partners in a unique agency committed to solving clients’ problems using the hard science of psychological manipulation. Clark is a former professor and a world-renowned expert in the field of human behavior.

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Changing Our Focus Toward YouTube

We're going to be doing a lot of new videos on the YouTube channel. It seems that we get the most response and conversation from our audience there. That doesn't mean that the blog is going to be neglected, but you're likely to see the most original content on the YouTube channel. We're going to have
distinct programing from our individual contributors, as well as scheduled broadcasts. All of this will be in conjunction with the blog and social media. The point is to provide a space where we can have adult conversations about everything. Videos are the best way to facilitate that, but often we need to have a base of knowledge to work from. We'll post articles that are provocative and demand deeper investigation. This blog will serve to fuel our videos with informative content. Stay tuned for more as we roll out more  video content.

Saturday, August 17, 2013

How Can I Put His Porno Past Behind Me?'

I recently found out that my boyfriend of two years appeared on a pretty well known "college jock" porn site a few years before we met, and it's causing me a lot of anxiety. First of all, I learned about it from a good friend of mine, who admitted he recognized him the minute I introduced them but never mentioned it until now because it didn't seem like a big deal to him. Second of all, my boyfriend also doesn't think it's a big deal, which is why he never mentioned it, and told me I had no reason to be upset.

Friday, August 16, 2013

Shonda Rhimes on Scandal’s New Season

By Josef Adalian

Shonda Rhimes does not give up secrets easily. When we caught up with the Scandal showrunner earlier this month at ABC's TV Critics Association press tour party, she was characteristically vague about what's in store for Olivia Pope and the Gladiators as the series begins its third season this fall (October 3, if you haven't updated your calendar yet). So after squeezing out just a little bit of of information about upcoming story lines, we moved on to other topics: The show's staccato-like pacing, the possibility of a spinoff, her disdain for the idea that Scandal is anybody's "guilty pleasure." If you're all up to date on the show, read on. And if you've yet to get addicted? Season one of Scandal is on Netflix now, while season two is on Hulu Plus (and heads to Netflix later this month).

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Free Will and the Reality of Love

By Sam Harris

Many readers continue to express confusion—even outrage and anguish—over my position on free will. Some are convinced that my view is self-contradictory. Others are persuaded of its truth but find the truth upsetting. They say that if cutting through the illusion of free will undermines hatred, it must undermine love as well. They worry about a world in which we view ourselves and other people as robots. I have heard from readers struggling with clinical depression who find that reading my book Free Will, or my blog articles on the topic, has only added to their troubles. Perhaps there is more to say…

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Take the Money and Run: The Crazy Perversities of Civil Asset Forfeiture

 By Radley Balko 

Last month, the Supreme Court tossed out the case Alvarez v. Smith, a challenge to a portion of the asset forfeiture in Illinois that allows the government to keep seized property for up to six months before giving its owner a day in court. The Court declined to rule on the case after determining it to be moot—all of the parties had settled with the government by the time the case made it to Washington.

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

N-Word, Rap and Black Friends: Awkward?

"I'm a 34-year-old white male. Me and most of the guys I work with and play in a basketball league with listen to the same music: hip-hop (old and new) and rap. Of course some songs have the n-word in them. I'm one of the only nonblack guys in the group, which has never caused an issue. But as the only white person, I'm uncomfortable when we're all hanging out and the word comes up in songs, especially when it's my car or at my apartment. I feel like I'm responsible for it. Am I being paranoid? Part of me thinks it's fine because I know we all like the same music, but part of me thinks I should have different rules because I'm not black. Should I ask one of my friends? All of them? Thank you in advance for any advice." --Nonracist Rap Fan

Monday, August 12, 2013

Self Deception: A Blessing and a Curse

Sometimes we live for our illusions. No one ever argues that we shouldn't be happy, but we will argue for being an atheist when we know that the religious are happier than the non believers. We also know that depressive people rarely have an unrealistic view of life and events. Research shows that the depressed are much more likely to have an accurate view of reality than healthy minded people. How could that be unless we're all a little delusional? We tend to call it optimism, which is an essential component of a healthy mindset. At the core of optimism is a self serving delusion that ignores possible negative outcomes in favor of positive ones. And yet how could anyone argue that optimism is a negative thing?

Saturday, August 10, 2013

Big Brother 15: A Microcosm in a Society of Silent Bigotry

by Jenn M. Jackson

Reality television is often shot down by entertainment snobs and others as a waste of time, money, and focus. And, while I agree in most ways, I still watch many of the shows which started when I was a child. Amazing Race, Survivor,Big Brother, and Real Housewives of Atlanta still show up in my DVR reel, and I am extremely unapologetic about it. But, this season’s display of open hostility and racism on Big Brother 15 has left me speechless in many ways. Though the media has focused on the two main offenders of the racist acts in the Big Brother house, I posit that the overall environment of silent bigoted acquiescence is much more dangerous when compared to how we live in society.

What Exactly Happened This Season?

Friday, August 9, 2013

Logan's Comics: Adult Comics For Bear Nerds

I love it when your favorite things come together perfectly. Logan's Comics does this with ease, combining adult content and comic book cool. There are not many artists that can raise a man's... curiosity the way this one does. If you take away the adult entertainment, you can still have a detailed and creative art style that is just pleasing to the eye. You can easily see the time he put in each image. I've been a big fan of Logan's for some time now and I'm happy to share it with the readers of M3. So if you want some adult comics and a good read check out Logan's site.      

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Help, I'm a Racist and I Don't Want to Be

By Jenée Desmond-Harris

"I'm a racist, and I don't want to be. I'm a white man in my very early 40s, and for years I've been extremely awkward and anxious around African Americans, especially men. At some point in my early teens, I became very self-conscious about the racial divide. And about that time, I moved to a much more homogeneously white area, and I guess gradually black people became abstractions to me or something. When I moved back to a more mixed neighborhood in college, I found I was afraid of them. Horrible thoughts and associations -- of crime, violence, whatever -- would spring to mind.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

The Many Faces of Idris Elba

By: Diamond Sharp of the Root | View the M3 post on Idrris Elba

For nearly 10 years, Idris Elba has been nothing short of an international star. From his deep baritone as the drug kingpin Russell "Stringer" Bell in HBO's The Wire to his recent success on the Hollywood circuit, he has become one of today's most versatile actors. Later this year, he'll star as Nelson Mandela in the screen biopic of the iconic leader. In anticipation of his first starring role in a major Hollywood movie, we review the many hats worn by this dynamic actor.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

The Big 'O'

So I recently had the absolute biggest orgasm that I have ever had in my entire life. If indeed I had lost my groove, I have most certainly got it back. For the past couple of months, I have been obsessed with investigating its lost and the reasons for it. Nowadays, I’m more interested in just enjoying its return. Skeet, skeet, skeet, skeet, have more beautiful words ever been spoken?

Considering the fact that I try not to look gifted horses in the mouth, I don’t particularly have a need to look my (or the other guy’s) gifted dick in the pee pee hole. However, if a gifted horse does speak I will most certainly listen. With that in mind, I have been listening to my own body, my own needs, my own ass, my own dick. I’ve been trying to think of an appropriate theme song for my body. I’m teetering between “Your Body Is A Wonderland” by John Mayer, “Falling To Pieces” by Faith No More, “Plump” by Hole, “Manhole” by Ani DiFranco, “Am I Human?” by Sinead O’Connor and “Just Be A Woman” by Lenny Kravitz.

Monday, August 5, 2013

Don Lemon And The Failure Of Respectability Politics

Telling the “black community” what it needs to do in order to become respectable isn’t brave truth-telling. It’s a way to shame black people into shutting up about the actual issues they face.

Jesse Taylor BuzzFeed Contributor

On Saturday, Don Lemon listed five steps the black community must require black men to take to become respectable: Stop sagging their pants, stop saying the n-word, stop littering, finish high school, and have fewer children out of wedlock. If black men do those things, they will show that they respect themselves, and then, you see, things will be better. (On Sunday, Lemon welcomed LZ Granderson and Ana Navarro on the air to pat his hand while he groused about the negative responses to his comments.)

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Hot Bears In Media: Kelle Whitehurst

Beyond just talking about important issues, we want to promote bears in the media. Americans are a big people, and yet our television and movie industry seem to ignore this fact and only show average or muscular built guys on screen. Why is this exactly? Maybe it's because even big people don't want to see themselves in media. There are a lot of self-hating big people out there. Let's try to do something about that. Big dudes are hot. We need to support those big guys who are trying to make it in this competitive industry. One such bear who I'd like to see more of is Kelle Whitehurst.